Sexual Techniques

The pinnacle of male desire is often fellatio -- the humble blow job, oral sex performed on the male. Women who've never given often find this gross or intimidating; men who've never received almost always want it. With proper preparation and knowledge, fellatio can be almost as fulfilling to the woman giving as to the man receiving.

Cunnilingus is oral sex performed on the woman, and can be as mind-blowingly fulfilling as fellatio for a man. It can also be boring. A smart man will learn what he's doing down there before starting, but once he's truly mastered it, he can make women beg for it.

Bondage is simply tying someone up, and is often used in soft or hard BDSM (bondage/domination/sado/masochism). It can be used in a more ordinary sex life as well to spice things up. One of the best reasons to try bondage: the total freedom to give or accept pleasure, without any requirement for reciprocation.

 

Anal sex can be incredibly erotic if you give it the chance. It also can be very taboo and somewhat scary depending on the experience or knowledge a person has on the subject. Sadly, when anal intercourse happens the first time, it will generally determine how much a person likes it and their thoughts of the act afterward. If the first time is extremely painful it is likely the person will not want to experience it again. However, anal intercourse does not have to be this way. In fact, it can be incredibly erotic and enjoyable.

The anus is a bundle of nerves. Both men and women are able to receive enjoyment from the stimulation and penetration of this area. How you handle these things generally dictates how enjoyable they are to the person you are having intercourse with.

If you are curious about anal sex, and are nervous there are many things you can do, to make the experience more enjoyable.

First, you need to remember to relax. If you are apprehensive and you tighten your muscles it is going to hurt much worse than if you are calm and ready. The first time you have anal sex it may hurt slightly or you may feel uncomfortable. If your partner places his penis inside you and allows your anus to stretch around him you will soon feel pleasure when he begins to thrust.

However, if you are nervous you might not want to begin with traditional anal sex. Go slow. Consider using anal beads, anal vibrators, or butt plugs. You can even use your lover’s fingers. Make sure to properly lube the toy and your anus before you begin. Toys are excellent to start with because you can determine the size of the item more than you can your lover’s penis. These toys will loosen you up some and prepare you for the larger offering of your lover and the joys of anal sex that he can offer.

Try out different positions with your toys and find one that is the most comfortable for you during anal intercourse. Many people new to anal sex prefer being on top of the man. This allows you to control the speed and thrusts that occur. If you feel the need to go slow you can position yourself and take your time. This makes it more enjoyable for you. At some point, once you are more used to anal intercourse, you might find it more enjoyable to try it standing up or in the traditional, doggy style position.

Remember to keep communication open during this time. Anal intercourse is a very intimate thing. If it hurts and you want to slow down or stop you should tell your lover. They should understand that you need to be fully comfortable with the event because if you are not then it’s not going to be pleasurable for you and you won’t ever be interested in trying it again.

Be vocal during the first few times, if not all of them. Tell your lover what feels good and when to speed up or slow down. The encouragement and praise of your voice as you are involved in this pleasurable activity will more than help him grow confident in his ability to please you during anal intercourse.